Umsamo’s Centre for Family Contextual Healing / Therapy : Explained
Introduction
We live in an age of anxiety, fear of violence and questioning of fundamental values. Confidence in traditional values is being questioned and challenged. We all go to healers of various kinds because of problems we are experiencing in our daily lives not knowing that all what we are we inherited from our families which is immediate and extended families as far as our ancestors of generation to generation from both the maternal and paternal side. Therefore, you are the “mate-paternal” product.
Contextual Healing
The fundamental design for contextual interventions is based on two convictions: (i) That the consequences of one’s person decisions and actions can affect the lives of the people who are significantly related to him and (ii) that satisfactory relating for one person is inseparable from the responsible consideration of consequences for all of the people to whom he or she is in significant relationship. The term “context” means consequences that flows from person to person, from generation to generation, and from one system to its successive system. It is the dynamic and ethical interconnectedness (Umsamo/Inkaba)- past, present and future that exists among people whose very being has significance for each other.
The consequential nature of relationships is ontological, based on the very fact of being. Family relationships are empowered by the fact that the members are connected through Inkaba/umsamo to each other by birth. This context and relationships starts from the relationship between the mother and the fetus.
The term “context” offers inescapability of intergenerational consequences of relationships.
Contextual healing aims at interventions based on the understanding of the fundamental connections between formative and all later relationships.
The contextual healing/therapy is concerned with the inner structure of close trustworthy relationship, what Burber calls genuine dialogue.
The Role of Responsibility
It is easy to overlook the fact that children are obliged to pay the price of adult freedom from responsibility. It is children who will inherit the cost of poor parenting, indifferent education, hypocritical values, vindictive intergroup traditions, alienation and a lack of trustworthiness and stability in failing nuclear families and their alternatives. Children are captive legatees of past and present behavior.
Realities of Contextual Healing
The questions we ask are:
(i) Where do I come from?
(ii) Who am I?
(iii) And Where am I going?
We must understand that there will always be the consequences of the past for the present and the future.
Dialogue between the Person and the Human Context
Each generation gives to the next one. Here offspring remain accountable to life or destiny as a whole for benefits received from parental and ancestral generations. Each generation gives to the next one. Therefore, adequate or responsible parenting is the chief dynamic principle in the intergenerational order of being. It is the cornerstone of survival and the matrix out of which inter-human justice grows and flows.
The dreams and Visions
Dreams and Visions are means and channels of communication between us the Living and the Living Dead. They are the bridge between the two worlds of the Living and the Living Dead. It is therefore critical and important that if you heal someone you must open for the dreams and visions to occur, that means Idlozi/ithongo have an access to the person and through those dreams explains its problems and how healing should go about. Therefore, healing is not about healing the body of a person in front of you but its about healing the Mind, Spirit and the Body, that is ‘holistism’ but body as an ontological phenomenon of accessibility to the two-metaphysical phenomenon’s which is the spirit and the mind.